The Love Dare

Toolbox Full of Forgiveness Tools

 October 18, 2020

By  Jonathan Biles

Love Dare Day 34: April 23, 2020

What is Day 23 about:

A toolbox is a collection of tools we use to fix or build things. But if we are going to the wrong toolbox then we won’t find the right tools. This chapter discusses the fact that we don’t have what it takes by ourselves to fix all the things that may go wrong in a relationship.

What do I think about the material:

This chapter is another one that is hard for me to swallow. In general, I am the type of person that likes to have control of situations. Not that I must be the one in charge, but know that situations are under control or at least that I know what is going on.

For example, last year when Jess and I took the leap for me to quit my job at SEL, I attempted to let go of our finances. But in fact, I actually had a plan to not let go of our finances. I said I was putting my faith in God to take care of us, but I relied on Jess’ business to provide income.

All the while, God was telling me to pursue my writing fast and hard. What I did in return, was to take care of looming projects around the house. I wasn’t wasting time, but I wasn’t spending it wisely. In turn, when we hit a pretty hard time, I yanked back control and worked hard at all the wrong things.

Bottom line is that I have a tendency to go to my own toolbox when it comes to fixing problems. The only problem with this mentality is that I don’t have all the right tools. Have you ever been working on your car and needed a hammer to move a bolt and didn’t have one handy? What do you do? Well, I grab the biggest wrench and bang away. It never turns our the way I want it to.

The main point of this chapter is that we are flawed humans that absolutely must rely on God and his bottomless toolbox of tools to help us navigate relationships. He has the right tool when we don’t. Most importantly, we must know what kind of tools he has. The only way to do this is to get into his word daily and establish a relationship with him first.

Our spouse is going to make poor choices that we will need to forgive them for. But we are not capable of doing that alone. We must call on him to give us strength to move past our pride and let go of those mistakes. Wouldn’t we want our spouse to do the same for us?

Another topic this chapter covers is whether or not we are encouraging our spouse in the right things. I won’t go into too much detail, but I recommend reading this chapter. It says that if we don’t have a good relationship with God, then it is quite possible we are encouraging our spouse in the wrong things and possibly causing them to sin.

My task and how did I perform the task:

The task for today was to find a way that my spouse is specifically demonstrating Christian character and let her know you notice the trait. I accomplished this on our daily walk letting her know I find it inspiring that she reads the Bible every day.

Jessica’s reaction:

She didn’t have an abnormal reaction to the comment and probably assumed it was just a part of our conversation. Jess has definitely been a source of encouragement through example to make sure I read daily. Her method began by reading the book of Acts and is continuing through the gospel.

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About the author 

Jonathan Biles

Jonathan Biles is a well-respected writer of fiction stories across the globe. He has worked with multiple publishing entities from print newspaper to Amazon Kindle. With a degree from The University of Idaho and print experience with Texas Tech University, he is sought after as a feature writer amongst his peer group. His readers rate him as a 5-star author and has won awards from Columbia University. As an author, he can transport you from daily chaos to worlds and adventures sure to entertain through his vivid imagery.

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