The Love Dare

Time to give it up

 October 17, 2020

By  Jonathan Biles

Love Dare Day 23: April 11, 2020

What is Day 23 about:

Time is a precious gift given to us each day. Are we like small children that hoard it for ourselves, or do we share this gift with our loved ones? No, this chapter is not about time, but for me it became my focus during the challenge.

Today, The Love Dare talks about how love should always be protective from the enemies trying to destroy its purpose.

What do I think about the material:

So far, this is my favorite chapter during this journey. I most likely got this trait from my father, but I honestly believe one of the key roles in a husband’s life is to protect his family. The love he has for his family is no exception to the rule.

One point this chapter makes early on is that when couples get married, they don’t get married hating each other, but as time goes on, the love field is scattered with mines ready to destroy the relationship.

There are 6 basic types of enemies of love that we must be on the lookout for.

  1. Misplace Priorities
  2. Unhealthy Relationships
  3. Harmful Influences
  4. Sexual Temptation
  5. Shame
  6. Parasites

When I first made this journey, I made note that the enemy hurting our marriage was unhealthy relationships. At the time, Jess and I were close friends with a couple that enjoyed a different kind of lifestyle than we were used to.

The toxicity of the relationship could not be seen on the surface, but in the habits we found ourselves in months down the road. As a matter of fact, we had to end the relationship cold turkey to ensure our family would no longer be affected.

Fast forward to today, I now see a different enemy to our marriage.

My task and how did I perform the task:

The challenge for day 23 is to remove anything that is hindering my relationship and any addiction or influence that is stealing my affection away from my wife.

Years ago that enemy was the toxic relationship with our friends, but today it is most definitely misplaced priorities.

I know this so clearly because when Jess needs something from me, but I am focused on something else, I am immediately irritated. I have learned not to act on this irritation, but internally I get heated.

So for today’s challenge, I am deleting distracting apps on my phone. My logic behind this is that if I can’t stop and give her attention when she needs it, then I should not stop and give my attention to this technology either.

No, it is not a solution to the internal struggle I have when my wife needs me, but it is a step in the right direction. I will wage war with this enemy of love and win one battle at a time.

Jessica’s reaction:

I told her about one of the apps I deleted because it is a time sucker for me and her response was one of confusion. She said I simply shouldn’t be on it. I wish it were that simple. I think over time she will subtly notice that I am on my phone less and giving her more attention.

One addition to this is that I am going to stop carrying my phone everywhere I go. I do this out of habit and really there is no need for it for most places I go.

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About the author 

Jonathan Biles

Jonathan Biles is a well-respected writer of fiction stories across the globe. He has worked with multiple publishing entities from print newspaper to Amazon Kindle. With a degree from The University of Idaho and print experience with Texas Tech University, he is sought after as a feature writer amongst his peer group. His readers rate him as a 5-star author and has won awards from Columbia University. As an author, he can transport you from daily chaos to worlds and adventures sure to entertain through his vivid imagery.

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