But maybe being thoughtful is what I am missing In my notes for the Love Dare that I wrote years ago, I mentioned that being thoughtful for Jess is actually quite easy. I’ll even bet that at times, I annoy Jess with my over concern about how she is feeling. I mean seriously, I ask her everything from is her coffee hot enough to are the kids annoying her? But you know what I don’t do? I don’t ask myself the same questions. The book says, “Great marriages come from great thinking.” If that is true, then a great ...

Read More

How well should we know our family tree Born on Friday, in church on Sunday. That pretty much sums up my church history. So basically my entire life, I have the opportunity to read the first 17 verses of Matthew, but I never understood the importance of listing Jesus’ genealogy. Sure, for the Biblical skeptics, having the family tree of Jesus helps understand the historical significance of his bloodline, but what is its significance to me? A great-uncle of mine once researched how the Biles side of my family tree grew. He spent decades of exhausting research to put ...

Read More

What if I don’t think I deserve Kindness Yesterday I almost made it out without saying anything mean to myself, but today I add kindness on top of my new challenge of loving myself. This chapter says that kindness is not reactive, but proactive. Further it says we can use Initiative, gentleness, helpfulness, and willingness as the core ingredients. The way I see it is if I want to be more kind to myself then I must take proactive steps instead of waiting on others to be kind to me; I must treat myself with softness; I must anticipate ...

Read More

What does being selfish look like? A selfish character and my character are not closely related. As a matter of fact, a selfish character is the worst word to describe me. Okay, that last statement sounded a little conceited, but honestly it is pretty close to the truth; or is it? In this chapter of The Love Dare, by Stephen and Alex Kendrick, it not only says that we all struggle with selfishness, but that the basis of selfishness is when we make decisions out of love for ourself OVER love for others. Growing up in the church, I ...

Read More

Love Dare Day 38: April 27, 2020 What is Day 38 about: Do you have a dream that you don’t dare to pursue out of fear of failure or the lack of support? Does your spouse? What can we do about it? Twenty plus years ago, I had a dream that the women I intended to marry squashed; however, that is a story for another time. This chapter discusses how you can show your support for your spouse on a whole new level by supporting a dream of their’s What do I think about the material: This chapter is ...

Read More

Love Dare Day 39: April 28, 2020 What is Day 39 about: No marriage will exist without storms; whether or not we endure them is entirely based on our commitment to our spouse and our promise. This chapter talks about how it is our choice during the storms whether or not we will continue to be with our spouse, but remember, Love never fails. What do I think about the material: Have you ever been in a storm that seems to be lasting for days? Did that storm eventually end? We live in a flawed world and in that ...

Read More

Love Dare Day 34: April 23, 2020 What is Day 23 about: A toolbox is a collection of tools we use to fix or build things. But if we are going to the wrong toolbox then we won’t find the right tools. This chapter discusses the fact that we don’t have what it takes by ourselves to fix all the things that may go wrong in a relationship. What do I think about the material: This chapter is another one that is hard for me to swallow. In general, I am the type of person that likes to have ...

Read More

Love Dare Day 33: April 22, 2020 What is Day 33 about: The differences between Jessica and I are more than or similarities, but that is the strength in our relationship. This chapter talks about how the differences in our spouse are not a weakness, but the strength God intentionally put in our marriage. What do I think about the material: We could not be more of an unlikely couple. When Jess and I met, I was a 30 year-old single dad coming off of an ugly divorce. She was a 22 year-old single mom struggling with balancing her ...

Read More

Love Dare Day 30: April 19, 2020 What is Day 30 about: Division always brings destruction, while unity creates growth. This chapter deals with any division in our relationship. What do I think about the material: Do you have a secret that you keep from your partner? Is it out of shame, guilt, or just plain embarrassment? This chapter doesn’t talk specifically about secrets, but it brings to my mind one of the easiest ways we create division in our relationships. Today, I am going to speak more specifically to men. I believe our gender has a harder time ...

Read More

Love Dare Day 29: April 18, 2020 Yesterday we had a bit of a sewer disaster that is challenging my patience, but I am working hard to stay motivated. What is Day 29 about: You will not accomplish anything in your life unless you are motivated to make it happen. Sometimes we don’t realize we are motivated because it comes so naturally, but something drives you. Hunger drives you to eat just like fatigue drives you to sleep. But what motivates us to love? This chapter explores the root of what motivates us to love imperfect human beings. What ...

Read More