Before we decide how you should find a mentor, let’s first look at understanding why we need a mentor. In yesterday’s post we talked about taking on some character traits from your father. Good or bad, we end up with a trait or two, but what about those characteristics of your personality that you want, but your parents did not supply? Take a breath, this is not as difficult as it sounds. The first step in understanding how to find a mentor is to first understand what it is you are looking for. If you don’t know what you ...

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Does your daddy dictate your career, your spouse, or maybe how you think? In 1492 Columbus sails the ocean blue. One hundred and 30 years later, colonists and their slaves settled in the future United States of America. It takes another 245 years before 1865 when slavery is abolished through the 13th Amendment. Again, another hundred years later, in 1963 Martin Luther King Jr. delivered his iconic “I have a dream” speech. In 2020 Black Lives Matter fights for change across America. Follow me for a second; a generation is approximately 25 years. Therefore, between the discovery of America ...

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My emotions stir with the familiar sound of my feet dragging on the concrete sidewalk. It’s the only sound I hear echoing off the stairwell outside my apartment door. I can’t tell which is more tired, my heavy eyes or sore feet. Most might say driving a taxi all night isn’t physically exhausting, but after several shift-filled nights, I really don’t care what people say, just that I am ready for bed!  The silence of the newly dawned morning allows the sound of the tumblers compressing echo the hall as I enter my key and reality enters my mind. ...

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I wake up each morning with my heart heavy and my mind racing; not triumphant. The dreams haunt me as I shake the sleepiness of the night. I have a big day ahead. No, it is not much different than the day before, but that day almost did me in. I put my still aching feet on the floor and take a deep breath. I will do better today and be a better husband and father and not lose my temper or get frustrated with my co-workers. Sigh, if only it were that easy. There is a heavy amount ...

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Welcome, My Triumphant Man. I am so glad you made it to my podcast. My name is Jonathan Biles, and I am your host for The Triumphant Man. Maybe for you it’s only been a few years, but for me, it is more like a few decades. From the mentors in my church and loving parents to the biased opinions of my peers, my belief on what makes a man is not based on the soundest fact. The more I dive into my past, the more I realize the picture painted for me is painted from an inspiration of fear and not ...

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I left SEL in April 2019. Almost 3 years later, there is something I need to apologize for and I didn’t realize until last night. Sitting in a half daze, partly from the muscle relaxer I am taking and partly from the long day, watching Superstore on Peacock, Jess turns to me and asks a simple question from my blog post yesterday, “why don’t you add spaces after the subhead?” I glanced over at her phone and to my surprise I see her reading my blog post. My surprise is the first reason I need to apologize, the second ...

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Overwhelmingly, when I meet new people, they always seem to want to know what line of work I use to feed my family. I am sure you’ve been there before… “Hey Jonathan, this is George, he’s a tax attorney.” “Good to meet you, Jonathan, what do you do?” Sound familiar? Now I am assuming he means what I do for work. I once read in a self-help book that, the title has long packed up its belongings and left my memory, gave a clever answer to that very question. It said instead of listing what you do for work ...

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I get angry, I yell, I cuss, I drink too much, I lose my patience, I don’t always finish projects, I do selfish things; yes I am just as flawed as the rest of our species. Even today, with this blog post, I missed my deadline and I am struggling to get the words out. Why admit to being flawed? For the first 30 plus years of my life, well what of it I can remember, I struggled with the fear of not being accepted. One particular memory has stuck, with me for 27 years. My family just relocated ...

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