The Love Dare

Honor, I Hereby Swear

 October 17, 2020

By  Jonathan Biles

Love Dare Day 15: April 1, 2020

What is Day 15 about:

In chapter 15 of The Love Dare, they tackle the huge subject of honor. Speaking from my limited, male perspective, I must say that honoring my wife does not com naturally. I do know, however, that to love her, I must honor her.

What do I think about the material:

This chapter does an excellent job of speaking on honor in a manner that pokes our ego to get us on track. Honor is one of those characteristics of our personality that I believe is not always intentional, but maybe it should be.

Usually when we talk about honor we think of authority figures in our lives or someone of great influence on us throughout our journey. This chapter challenges that perspective and asks us what honor really means.

We are given direction from God on this subject in 1 Peter where men are told to honor their wives. Side tangent, we are watching a show on Hulu called A Handmaid’s Tale and in that show the men definitely do not honor women.

The challenge continues as the chapter links the word honor to holy. “Holiness means they are set apart for a higher purpose.” When we wed, we are in holy matrimony and we are intentionally saying that our spouse is set apart for something greater.

It is now the challenge of the significant other to nurture that purpose. In many marriages, we forget that we are not the center of the universe, but our purpose is. As men, we are to honor that holy purpose and positively lift her up.

Before I got to the challenge for the day, I asked myself if I honor my wife in everything I do. I must admit, I do not honor her all day every day, but I certainly try.

What was my task and how did I perform the task:

Thankfully this challenge didn’t ask for us to step up our honor game in all respects of our life because I think that will be quite overwhelming. The challenge instead, asks us to check how we honor our significant other in listening.

That’s it; just listening.

After reading the dare I figured this would be an easy challenge and wouldn’t have anything to write about today. I was incredibly wrong. You know how when you injury a part of your body you suddenly become more aware of how much you use it? Well that was me today.

I accepted the challenge and told myself that every time Jess talked to me that I would stop what I was doing and look at her with my full attention. The day started off pretty easy, then I got busy with my work.

She was working on an email to her CEO talking about her expertise in social media and she wanted me to read it and give her feedback. That part was easy. I read the email, gave her feedback and moved back to my work.

Well she wasn’t done with the situation, so she kept calling my attention back to her and away from my work. I successfully gave her my complete attention, but the anxiety level increased in me was pretty shocking.

My attention giving skills definitely need more work.

What was Jessica’s reaction:

In the above example, Jess did notice my increased anxiety, and she asked if she was driving me crazy. I didn’t let the cat out of the bag and I just told her the situation was pretty intense.

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About the author 

Jonathan Biles

Jonathan Biles is a well-respected writer of fiction stories across the globe. He has worked with multiple publishing entities from print newspaper to Amazon Kindle. With a degree from The University of Idaho and print experience with Texas Tech University, he is sought after as a feature writer amongst his peer group. His readers rate him as a 5-star author and has won awards from Columbia University. As an author, he can transport you from daily chaos to worlds and adventures sure to entertain through his vivid imagery.

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