Love Dare Day 14: March 31, 2020
What is Day 14 about:
Under each chapter title in this book, the author finds a verse from the Bible as an intro to the chapter. I really like the verse he chose for this chapter to get us in the delight mindset.
“Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life” ~ Ecclesiastes 9:9
What do I think about the material:
After a few heavy days in a row in The Love Dare it is nice to have a pleasant topic. This chapter focuses on one of the reasons we fell in love with our mate to begin with.
About a month ago, my wife walks into our family room and sitting on the floor playing with his wooden train sat our youngest, Timothy. Jess wasn’t dressed up or anything and she wore her normal daily attire. Out of nowhere, Timothy says, “You’re beautiful mom.”
Touched, of course, she says thank you and leaves the room to tell me what happened. Where did he get the notion of what is beautiful and what is not beautiful? I like to think he complimented her because he hears me and the other children complimenting her and he wanted to be nice. But do you know where you got the notion of what is and what isn’t beautiful.
All day every day we are bombarded with images of what the world thinks is beautiful and we are forced to choose whether or not we will find delight in it. I know in my late teens and early twenties the image our world shoved on us determined what I found beautiful.
This did not lead to a positive relationship. My first marriage was built on that image of lust and therefore fell apart quickly. This chapter states that we shouldn’t follow our heart, but we must lead our heart.
I absolutely love this.
The trick is to know what our heart wants so we make the right decisions along the way. One of the most wonderful things about our Creator is he gave us the ability to make decisions. We are able to make the decision to delight in our spouse and we are able to make this decision every single day.
What was my task and how did I perform the task:
Today’s task surprised me after the read. I assumed the task would be to find something that instilled delight in your heart about your significant other, but in fact, the dare is to do something that she would love for you to do.
Jess and I work from home, so most of our day is spent working on our own businesses and with the kids home due to the virus, but we are managing that space as well. Finding time to enjoy things has become a challenge.
Today I am sitting at my computer and Jess walks in obviously stressed about her day. She tells me that we, as a couple, need to find something in our everyday that we can do together. I swear she isn’t reading this book with me.
Over the summer we walked for at least 30 minutes in an effort to get away from our computers. This time together ended up being a great way for us to connect and talk about things that were weighing on our minds.
I think she missed that adult connection.
So say it is a cop out, but Jess solved my dare for me. I immediately agreed and now we have a standing date at 11 am every day to walk and connect.
What was Jessica’s reaction:
We took our first walk and I can see a difference in her mood. The day before her afternoons were obviously stressed, but today she allowed her creativity to reign and not become overwhelmed with her work.
It snowed, rained, sleeted, and hailed, but it didn’t stop us from enjoying our day.
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